Imagine -- Mary and her husband, John, have the same predictable fight week after week. John cheated on Mary five years ago and she can’t let it go.Read More
We humans all have cognitive distortions to some degree that are similar from person to person. Cognitive distortions are those pesky ways we think in order to try to make sense of the world. Trouble is, the world doesn’t always make sense.Read More
Sometimes emotions are overwhelming because the circumstances, mood or relationship issue is so powerful. When a loved one dies, your client feels overwhelming grief. In time, the grief diminishes. Other times, the intensity of the emotion is greater than the trigger warrants (e.g., a child spills a glass of milk and mom goes into a rage). Most of the time, our client’s emotions are complex. Story-telling, over-interpretation and ruminative thoughts trigger an overwhelming emotional response (and vice versa).Read More
Battle lines are drawn in her head each side ready to attack the other at a moment’s notice. On one side, her inner critic waits not-so-patiently to judge. Her inner critic judges harshly when she ridicules her best friend or takes a stranger home from the bar, when she cuts or quits yet another job after a month. To the inner critic in her head, the list to be judged is seemingly endless.Read More
Despite decades of research, there are still many who believe Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is untreatable. Nothing could be further from the truth. Over the years, I have experienced firsthand the resilience (accompanied by the occasional resistance) of people in the face of serious BPD and difficult life situations. And I have seen firsthand how effective DBT can be when clients are committed to obtaining the mindful awareness and skills needed to create a life worth living.Read More
Meditation is not a practice exclusive to any one religious or philisophical tradition. In this article, Sandra Miller explores mediative traditions from a Christian, Jewish and Islamic perspective.Read More
Your therapist has it all on lock right? Their lives are perfect. They have no problems — at least not compared to yours. WRONG! Therapists struggle too. Therapists are human. They make mistakes and they have to use the same coping skills they teach and encourage you to use!Read More
On a cold wet afternoon,
In a room full of emptiness by a freeway,
I confess I was lost in the pages of a book full of death;
Reading how we'll die alone.
And if we're good we'll lay to rest, anywhere we want to go.
~ Chris Cornell, "Like A Stone",(originally by Audioslave)Read More